The lie of Unforgiveness

By:  Kathy Roberts

‘Say to Joseph, “Please forgive the transgression of your brothers and their sin, because they did evil to you.”’ And now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father.” Joseph wept when they spoke to him. His brothers also came and fell down before him and said, “Behold, we are your servants.” But Joseph said to them, “Do not fear, for am I in the place of God? As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. So do not fear; I will provide for you and your little ones.” Thus he comforted them and spoke kindly to them. -Genesis 50:17-21

The sad truth of this life is that people hurt people. However, the awesome truth is God is able to overcome those hurts with His incredible healing power and give us victory over our circumstances; victory over deep unfair hurts that occur in this life or even casual annoyances. Even if it feels impossible to us, we can experience true freedom if we will trust Him and the power of His Holy Spirit to forgive as we have been forgiven. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Joseph was incredibly mistreated by his family and more, but through faith in God he had eyes to see past his circumstances to a greater good. “But what man intended for evil God meant for good”…will you believe that today? Our good, our families good, our friends good, for the good of those witnessing our forgiveness! All by faith in the power of God, not ourselves. Believe there is a STORY for the GLORY of God… with man it’s impossible but with God all things are possible! 

The enemy would have us believe true forgiveness is IMPOSSIBLE, it’s all a LIE, we can’t forgive, we can’t forget,  God can’t use it for good. 

Because I have believed this lie far too many times, I took a moment to jot down all the lies I have believed throughout my life. For me, searching the truth in my heart and then writing it out and facing the lies on paper helped me to recognize their true source, the father of lies.

Lies of Unforgiveness:

Unforgiveness will hurt them and not me.

Unforgiveness will bring me justice and satisfaction- I will teach them through cutting them out or through revenge.

Unforgiveness won’t affect my life I’ll move on someday.

Unforgiveness won’t affect others I love.

Unforgiveness won’t affect my relationships in the future.

Unforgiveness won’t affect my overall spiritual and physical health.

Unforgiveness is not necessary I can live with the hurt. 

Unforgiveness is not really a sin, I am justified. God understands.

Unforgiveness won’t hinder my prayer or intimacy with God.

I would often say to myself, “But they don’t deserve my forgiveness!”; and I was right. None of us DESERVE God’s forgiveness, it’s by the grace of God that we’ve been forgiven  and it is only by the grace of God we can forgive and be free of the LIE unforgiveness. Let us all choose the TRUTH! May we  walk in faith and in freedom; not shackled down by unforgiveness!